Diario di cindylynnwho, 04 feb 22

I have lost a sister under similar mysterious circumstances. It's been painful, but over time I've had to let it go. I'm so sorry. You will feel it at your wedding, but you can't let it spoil anything for you. She has her own reasons, I've had to accept that I can't know what's going on in my sister's mind. And (sadly) let it go. 

Thank you Erika and DJ. For Erika and others, there is a book I heard about for those who have lost a sibling and potentially want them back that might be good, called Brothers, Sisters, Strangers: Sibling Estrangement and the Road to Reconciliation by Fern Schumer Chapman. I haven’t read it yet and don’t want to spend that much more energy on my sisters negative drama at the moment but might read down the road. For those who have lost a sibling or family member that deserves to be lost and whom you want to stay lost, I understand that is a painful reality too.  

Good morning Cindy , I hope my post was not the judgment one . By no means was I trying to do that . I honestly don’t know why I posted my family stuff here, but I thought it would help ,since I am going through something similar. I normally don’t interject my own stuff on here. Hope you and your sister figure things out and best of luck to you😍😍😍🙏🥰🥰🥰  

Ocean girl thank you for clarifying. That’s very sweet. 💜 I was referring to cluey22 who said that my sister probably dumped me because my family and I are fake, which is a pretty unkind and arrogant assumption to make about a stranger, and also stupid because I think it can be gathered from my original post that my sister is the one who was fake, pretending to love me and to be very happy about our relationship but actually developing a deep resentment or hatred toward me that only came out when she ghosted me and later told my brother she hates me (he hasn’t told me why; claims he wasn’t listening when she mentioned it). You did not say anything judgmental though I did fear that you were judging me due to my own insecurities and sensitivity. You did mention self reflection - to be clear, this happened in 2020, so I’ve had enormous amounts of time to both self reflect and try to gather information about what was wrong and, while I could have inadvertently slighted her in a minor way, there was nothing I’ve done that was mean, fake, dishonest, etc. I’m sorry that your sister is dishonest. That must be very hard. Dishonesty is my least favorite quality in a person and I cut contact with a friend once because of it so I understand. Anyway, thank you for your kind words. I’m sorry if I spoke too quickly with mine. I want you to feel free to share your own experiences here. I just don’t enjoy people being deliberately rude like Cluey was. But there are trolls everywhere. Have a great day. 🤗 

Dear Cindy, I'm so sorry for the loss of relationship with your sister. I too had little relationship with my sister. As I read the comments here I didn't see any judgement. I believe we all want to support you and want your very best. When I share something similar I'm thinking perhaps the person won't feel so alone in their situation. I've sure learned I can't control other people and it sure can hurt when they are not nice. I'm sorry she is hurting you. May God heal your hurt. He loves you so very much. More that all the rest of the people in the whole world put together. I have to keep trying to remember that, because my feelings are raw. We share to give support. 

Snow White thank you so much for your kind words. We will have to agree to disagree over whether everyone on the post was supportive - certainly everyone was except for the person who insinuated I deserved bad treatment and ghosting because of their idea that my family and I are fake. I appreciate your kind thoughts anyway and appreciate everyone else who was supportive.  

Hi Cindy, thanks for clarifying this with me. Communicating how you feel is so important, you definitely have a good head on your shoulders, thanks for the support as well. It really sucks when family doesn’t agree on crap and there is a falling out . You sound like a great girl, your sister will definitely miss out on being with you 🌊🌊🌊🌊❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ 

Thank you ocean girl ❤️❤️ Your sister is missing out too by having broken your trust  

I pray that God will comfort you and reconcile you and your sister. Much love to you Cindylyn it will be okay  

Thank you buenita 🤗🤗 you’re so sweet  

Thank you Tim, I have done that  

Cindy I can only encourage you to continue to pray and love your sister, as hard as that may be, and be ready (prepare yourself mentally and spiritually) for the day when God brings her back and the discussions which will ensue as well as the healing and reconciliation. I am experiencing something very similar but with a large extended family, God has worked on my heart to forgive the hurts and to help me to love those who seem unlovable (I am still a work in progress). This whole episode is painful my friend, in the Caribbean we say who feels it know it, that why I am sending you extra special hugs today, blessings sweet friend🙏🏽💗🙏🏽. 

Thank you DotK ❤️🤗 

Family issues hurt everyone. All sides. I hope you both can resolve this. It will be the best day ever for you both as I’m sure she’s hurting also. Likely more than you. In my prayers Cindy. ❤️🙏 

Thank you wifey 💕 

I am so sorry. I would be devastated if that happened with one of my sisters. It makes me sad just thinking about it. Big HUG. 

Thank you @meonadiet 🤗🤗